A word to the wise from one who's not so wise but might have greater experience, due to age....lots of it, age that is! Stick with it P. if the cute one is worth anything in your life then he's worth the effort of making the best effort to make it work. Ups and downs, sunny and rain. The guy in my life and I have had our fair share of trauma but with the help of an optimistic overview (plus the fact that he has a really delectable bum, if that happens to count--it does with me!!) we've kept together for a long long while. SO, P, keep working at it, keep optimistic and if you read this and think "what aload of tosh" then maybe it's time you did think of the parting of the ways. Good luck, good decisions, Love, Geoff